Favorite NonDuality Pointers
Is it possible to hear criticism, even insult, and find deep acceptance in any internal response that emerges in the moment - grounded in the unshakeable knowing that what you really are doesn’t need defending? And then, being radically open, is it possible to find a nugget of truth in what they are saying, even if it results in momentary humiliation, and destruction of the image of the one you thought you were?
This doesn’t mean you become passive and weak. Quite the opposite. You stop identifying as ‘the victim’ or ‘the hurt one’, and stop seeing the other as ‘the enemy’, and you remain open and vast, the infinite capacity for all life, for all thought and sensation and feeling. And here, in the midst of conflict, you discover the place where conflict ends, and wake up to a love and understanding beyond reason.
Yes, every human relationship is a constant invitation to let go. Your mother, your father, your friends, your lovers, your co-workers, everyone you meet - here are your final gurus, your ultimate teachers. Listen to them. Jeff Foster
UNDERSTANDING THE URGE TO DIE
I spent the first 23 years of my life wanting to die. And here is what I discovered:
The urge to die is the urge to live in disguise.
The urge to die is the urge to disappear as a separate self, to vanish into the vastness of Being, to rest deeply, as we have never rested before. It is the wave longing to return to the ocean… forgetting that it was never divided from the ocean in the first place. An innocent mistake, easily corrected with a little investigation.
The urge to die is not negative, sick, dark or sinful, but it is deeply, deeply misunderstood, that’s for sure! We ignore the urge, push it away, hide it, medicate it, keep it a secret, try to numb ourselves to it or even philosophize it away. But when acknowledged, honoured, listened to, even the suicidal urge, the urge to shed our false skin, contains infinite intelligence. All feelings do!
For secretly, the urge to die is the urge to awaken, to come alive, to stop identifying as a separate body-mind, to remember our original nature, vast and free! It is the urge to shed the false ‘me’ (ego, self, person) to stop pretending to be something we are not, to let go of all that is second-hand and inauthentic, and to live, to really live, fearless and free, as consciousness itself, full of life and potential and cosmic creativity!
The urge to die is not our enemy - it is not to be annihilated and not to be feared. It contains a profound message of awakening and change. It says, shouts, screams, “You are not limited to what you think you are! You are a child of the Universe, remember, deserving of all its riches! Only the false can die, and you cannot be false!” Can we hear its call? Can we listen, really listen?
The wave cannot return to the ocean, cannot get Home. It was never divided from its Home in the first place! You are already Oceanic, friend, and the true suicide is not the stopping of the body-mind but the remembrance of your original and unblemished nature, here and now, beyond the ravages of time!
LIVE! LIVE! LIVE! NOTHING TO LOSE! Jeff Foster
THE ULTIMATE RELIEF
You don’t have to feel ‘okay’ all the time. You don’t have to be free from resistance all the time, happy all the time, enlightened all the time, peaceful all the time.
There is no ‘all the time’ for you! You are bigger than that, less limited. You are not bound by time, nor space. You are the space for the okay and the not-okay, the acceptance and the resistance, the light and the dark, the joy and the pain.
You don’t need any fixed and unchangeable image of yourself.
You don’t need to be the enlightened guru or the spiritual warrior. You don’t need to be the peaceful one, the awakened one, the strong one, the highly evolved one, the one immune to suffering. All are limitations on your nature.
Simply be what you are, not ‘this’ one or ‘that’ one, but The One, the space for all of it. All of it!
Let life kick you off your pedestal time and time again, until you lose all interest in being on pedestals. Jeff Fosteer
THE BEAUTIFUL GROUND
When you are beyond help,
you are at your strongest.
When you are hopeless, without a future,
you can be fully present.
When your heart is breaking,
it is really trying to soften.
When you are on your knees,
you are closer to the beautiful ground.
Questioner: Is the witness-consciousness permanent or not?
Maharaj: It is not permanent.
The knower rises and sets with the known.
That in which both the knower and the known arise and set, is beyond time.
The words permanent or eternal do not apply.
Q: In sleep there is neither the known, nor the knower.
What keeps the body sensitive and receptive?
M: Surely you cannot say the knower was absent.
The experience of things and thoughts was not there, that is
But the absence of experience too is experience.
It is like entering a dark room and saying: ‘I see nothing’.
A man blind from birth knows not what darkness means.
Similarly, only the knower knows that he does not know.
Sleep is merely a lapse in memory.
Life goes on.
Q: And what is death?
M: It is the change in the living process of a particular body.
Integration ends and
disintegration sets in.
Q: But what about the knower.
With the disappearance of the
body, does the knower disappear?
M: Just as the knower of the body appears at birth, so he
disappears at death.
Q: And nothing remains?
M: Life remains.
Consciousness needs a vehicle and an instrument for its
M: Yes, there is something that may be called the memory
body, or causal body, a record of all that was thought, wanted
M: It is a reflection in a separate body of the one reality.
In this reflection the unlimited and the limited are confused
and taken to be the same.
To undo this confusion is the
purpose of Yoga.
Q: Does not death undo this confusion?
M: In death only the body dies.
Life does not, consciousness does not, reality does not.
And the life is never so alive as after death.
Q: But does one get reborn?
M: What was born must die.
Only the unborn is deathless.
Find what is it that never sleeps and never wakes, and whose pale reflection is our sense of
Q: How am I to go about this finding out?
M: How do you go about finding
By keeping your mind and heart in it.
Interest there must be and steady remembrance.
To remember what needs to be
remembered is the secret of success.
You come to it through earnestness.
Q: Do you mean to say that mere wanting to find out is
Surely, both qualifications and
opportunities are needed.
M: These will come with earnestness.
What is supremely important is to be free from contradictions:
the goal and the way must not be on different levels; life and light must not quarrel; behaviour must not betray
Call it honesty, integrity, wholeness; you must not go back, undo, uproot, abandon the conquered ground.
Tenacity of purpose and honesty in pursuit will bring you
to your goal.
Q: Tenacity and honesty are
Not a trace of them I have.
M: All will come as you go on.
Take the first step first.
All blessings come from within.
‘l am’ you know.
Be with it all the time you can spare, until you revert to it
There is no simpler and easier way.
From I AM THAT